Greetings my brothers and sisters in Christ. Have any of you ever been in a situation where you said something with good intentions but after you said it you were left wishing you had a redo button??
This recently happened to me when I unfortunately did not walk in the wisdom of the word. I had a friend that I was concerned about and instead of heeding the advice in Mathew 18:15 “If your brother or sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over.”
Now my friend had not sinned against me, however there were things I was concerned about. Unfortunately, like I said I did not follow the wisdom of the word and go to him in confidence where my words may have been understood out of the love and concern, I intended. No like a Fool I failed to practice restraint as stated in proverbs 17:27 The one who has knowledge uses words with restraint, and whoever has understanding is even-tempered. I went to someone else with my concerns in a not so private setting. Because of my foolishness, instead of bringing healing my words became like a sword.
The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.
Proverbs 12:18 NIV
I did not present myself as wise brothers and sisters no my words were perceived as gossip and slander and the price was heavy. Not only did I possibly damage both our reputations, I damaged my witness. I misrepresented the kingdom and I hurt someone very close to me. Praise be to God! My friend did follow the word “If your brother or sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over.
Matthew 18:15 NIV
He showed me grace and confronted me the right way. However, now I am at the mercy of our Lord and open to the further consequences that may follow.
Brothers and sisters, it is my prayer that you can learn from my story and not find yourself in the snares of your own making. Be people who guard their tongues for “Those who guard their mouths, and their tongues keep themselves from calamity.”
Proverbs 21:23 NIV
I would also ask Brothers and Sisters in Christ that you would pray for my friend and I. That wounds would be mended and peace that knows no bounds flow over us May the Lord’s favor be upon you and the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ be with you always.
Blessings
Dakota Swinton